Tell Me About Them — conversations that make room for the people we grieve

@cometellmeaboutthem
Vancouver
My dad and me smiling together.

My dad

A face behind the stories.

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The project A little room
for their stories.Why these conversations exist.
My brother with sunglasses resting on his head, beside me.

My brother

A face behind the stories.

A worn blue badge reading It’s okay to ask me about, with a blank space for a name.tell me about themType a name
Behind the conversationsWhy a bench?Making room for grief in everyday life.

Why a bench?

An empty seat.
An open invitation.

A bench is public, ordinary, and familiar. A place to rest, wait, or sit beside someone. You don’t need an appointment or the perfect words to be there.

I wanted these conversations to feel like that: two people sitting together, making room for someone they love. A setting that feels like everyday life, rather than a clinical space.

Around us, the world keeps moving. People walk past. Leaves shift. You might hear traffic, birds, or someone laughing nearby. Grief exists alongside all of it. It doesn’t have to be set apart from the rest of being alive.

There’s also the seat itself. An empty place can hold the feeling of someone missing. It can also say: there’s room for you here. The same bench can hold absence and welcome.

The bench came from a need I understood personally. I wanted to embody the welcome I had been looking for—to be someone who makes room, listens, and invites you to talk about the person you miss.

01 / The project

Absence doesn’t mean
they’re gone from us.

Sometimes we stay quiet because we don’t know what to say. Even when there’s someone we’d love to talk about.

Tell Me About Them makes a little room for those conversations. For the familiar sayings, the unlikely stories, the things that still make us laugh.

Sharing can help us feel known. Listening can help us feel accompanied.

hello@tellmeaboutthem.org

A conversation on a park bench with a white silhouette named Papa.
03 — Papa

A way to begin

What always makes you laugh when you think of them?

You don’t need the perfect words. Sometimes a small question is enough.

03 / Take part

Someone
on your mind?

If you’d like to explore sharing about someone in a filmed conversation, we’d love to hear from you.

We’ll start by connecting. You can ask questions, share what would help you feel comfortable, and take your time deciding.

No obligation to film. “Not now” is welcome, too.

A little room for them
Still from Tell Me About Them

Come tell me about

Procy

A name. A person. A whole world of small things.

Moments from this conversation

Moments from this conversation will be gathered here as clips are shared. Each conversation holds one person’s perspective and relationship.

Participant interest · draft preview

Tell Me About Them

Thank you for being interested in sharing about someone you love.

Tell Me About Them is a series of ordinary, unscripted conversations about people we’ve lost — their stories, habits, quirks, and the ways they continue to shape our lives.

This form is simply a way for us to connect. You don’t need to have the perfect story or know exactly what you’d like to say.

There is no obligation to participate in filming, and you can take your time deciding whether this feels right for you.

Draft preview. You can try these fields. Your answers stay in this tab and are not saved or submitted.

Your privacy

Your responses will be used to discuss possible participation and coordinate next steps, and accessed only by authorized project team members.

Submitting this form does not grant permission to film or publish. If you don't participate, your inquiry information will be retained for up to 12 months after our last contact, then deleted unless legally required otherwise. You can request earlier deletion or ask questions at hello@tellmeaboutthem.org.